Love Is Blind’s Patrick reveals he spent thousands of dollars on therapy to recover from his split with Kacie

Patrick Suzuki wants everyone to know that he is no longer the same insecure person you see now on Love Is Blind. And that’s because he’s worked hard to heal in the year and a half since filming the show, thanks to “a lot of therapy.”

Throughout the first six episodes of season 9, Patrick spoke a lot both in his confessionals and on dates in the pods about how living in a predominantly white city like Denver as an Asian man resulted in him developing insecurities over his appearance. And then his fiancée Kacie McIntosh abruptly ended their relationship in a bizarre confrontation after their in-person reveal, admitting to producers (but not to Patrick) that she knew she wouldn’t “grow” an attraction to him.

While that confusing breakup was difficult for Patrick in the moment especially because he didn’t fully realize it was a breakup until much later, he said the way Kacie “handled it” was actually “a good thing.”

“Because I was so confused that I was like, ‘I need to look really deep into myself to understand where are these insecurities coming from? What am I willing to tolerate in a relationship?'” “It made me dive really deep into unhealed wounds, and it had to be triggered by just spiraling about what had happened.”

“As far as the healing journey goes, I traveled a ton,” Patrick says. “I went to a lot of different culturally diverse places like Seattle, L.A., New York, I went to Europe, Austin, checked out a lot of different Chinatowns, things like that.”

But most importantly, he went to “a lot of therapy.”

“I probably spent thousands of dollars on therapy, just every single week, sometimes twice a week, just because I just wanted to figure out what it was,” Patrick explains. “And at the end of the day, I kind of realized when it comes to finding love, it’s not about race or how you look or things like that. It’s about just being confident and healthy mentally, that way you know what you bring to the table, you know what you’re willing to tolerate, and you know what you want outside of the insecurities, because insecurities can just blind you.”

Watching his Love Is Blind journey now in the episodes a year and a half later has been incredibly eye-opening for him as he realizes just how far he’s come with his own self-confidence. And he’s also touched to see how his experience in the episodes has impacted viewers as well.

“I’ve had a ton of outpouring support from a lot of people,” Patrick says. “I’ve had a lot of DMs from people that are dating an Asian guy where they’re saying, ‘My husband walked in or my boyfriend walked in watching it, and they started crying when they saw your scene about you having such a hard time telling her your ethnicity because they relate.’ I think a lot of people can relate to this minor identity crisis, so I’m just happy that I healed the way I did.”

While he didn’t walk away from the show with a wife or romantic relationship with any fellow cast members, he says that he looks back on the experience in a positive light because of how it helped him grow.

“Right now, I feel way healthier than I did when I was in the pods, and I’m happy that the story came out the way it did,” Patrick says. “And I hope it’s inspiring for a lot of people that suffer from the same thing. A lot of people have a hard time healing or uncovering what they need to heal.”

Love Is Blind season 9 releases episodes 7-9 on Wednesday, Oct. 8, with episodes 10-11 on Wednesday, Oct. 15, and the finale on Wednesday, Oct. 22.